The Art of Seduction

I can just imagine someone wondering what seduction has got to do with her. Yes, I hear you saying “I am a nice, decent and homely woman. I have no links whatsoever to the oldest profession (prostitution) and I am a dutiful, faithful and submissive wife.”

Seduction needs no definition. What I find intriguing are its synonyms: temptation, attraction, lure, allure, call, pull, draw, charm, bait, decoy, magnet, appeal, fascination, interest, glamour, drawing power, magnetism, enchantment, enticement. You will notice that almost all the words used paint a clear picture of an active deployment of resources towards the achievement of an objective.

Art is defined as the conscious use of the imagination in the production of beauty or expression of important ideas and feelings.

How do these definitions and synonyms apply to you? What is this write up all about? you wonder…..We are making our way dear girlfriend and believe me, we will be there soon.

A study was once carried out by one Terri Fisher and her Research Team at Ohio State University in a bid to determine the number of times in a day that the average male thinks about sex. The result will amaze you! Your knight in shining armour and my gentleman, unassuming and decent husband most likely thinks of sex 19 times a day. That is approximately an average of once every 90 minutes! In fact, the study revealed that the average male thinks of sex more than he thinks of food! Sex may just be more important to him than food and there goes the saying that the way to a man’s heart is through his stomach….we missed the spot…….the actual location appears to be a bit lower. Sex is therefore a big deal to the average male.

We need no soothsayer to tell us that our men are several times in a day visually sexually assaulted or attracted. In effect, the average guy in today’s society is daily inundated with sexually explicit images. Check the billboards, television adverts, music videos, movies and the attires of some ladies around the workplace, on the streets and at times even in places of worship and you will agree with me.

Truth be told, guys are many times a day under sexual pressure and when the hectic runs of the day’s activities are over or substantially tuned down, it is only natural that expression and release of the built up tension be sought…

That! My lady, is where you come in. If release and expression must be sought from you, then it means you are a Valuable Service Provider (VSP) and if you are indeed one, then business and management sense should tell you your skills must be horned. In other words, there must be value added and in such a way that your Key Selling Points (KSP) are artistically and imaginatively deployed such that the experience is worth looking forward to and expression and release are not sought elsewhere.

Those Key Selling points are your weapons of warfare against competing interests out there! Deploying them imaginatively and accurately is what the art of seduction is all about.

This art is not the exclusive preserve of the whores and ladies of easy virtue.. Truth be told, many wives have lost their men, homes and thrones to the ladies of easy virtue simply because these wives failed or neglected to deploy their weapons of warfare. The painful fact is that there is not one lady on the face of the earth without her own exotic and peculiar mix of these weapons of warfare…..yet, some allow them to go to waste. How sad!

I once read somewhere that a man wants a lady on his arms to show off, but desires a whore in his bed. Reality out there however shows that many wives out there do not know how to transit from being a well cultured and good mannered lady in his arms to being a whore in his bed.

It is time dear wife to stop playing the ostrich. Let us get real and fill up our arsenals with the right weapons and begin to learn the art of seduction. In marriage, it is legal, proper and necessary. We shall therefore in this section be learning this art, identifying our exotic blend of arsenals and deploying them imaginatively.

Let the real wives talk back to me please! I need to get this naughty grin off my face.

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Bisi Adebayo
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Bisi Adebayo

I am Bisi Adebayo, a dynamic woman of many parts. I am a lawyer with over 27 years’ work experience spanning maritime practice, commercial law and general practice. I have had a decade long foray into the Financial Services Industry and at various times oversaw the legal, marketing, credit and treasury (assets trading and intermediation) functions of the organization I worked for, a testament to my versatility.

11 thoughts on “The Art of Seduction

  • February 14, 2016 at 1:58 pm
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    I’m looking forward to the details of how to master this art

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  • February 14, 2016 at 5:56 pm
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    True talk….unfortunately ladies are left to grope in the dark wasting years of marriage to arrive at this point.. And when you get there, the how is a topic you probably won’t have anyone to talk to about.

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  • February 14, 2016 at 9:44 pm
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    @ JK. We shall surely tackle the “how” in subsequent posts. Stay tuned!

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  • February 14, 2016 at 10:29 pm
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    cant wait to learn more ma.

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  • February 15, 2016 at 9:47 am
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    Interesting. Looking forward to the how. Truth is, I feel it is exhausting trying to deploy all these arsenals to keep up or compete with the things/people that assault the man out there. If the man is grounded in God,shouldn’t he be able to withstand these assaults and seek release only at home? Well hopefully,these and other questions will be answered subsequently. Well done my sister.

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  • February 15, 2016 at 10:35 pm
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    Yes of, we really need to master the art. Can’t wait….

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  • February 17, 2016 at 7:18 pm
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    Well, I think it’s more about self, you can only give what you have. If your sole reason is competing, then you will wear yourself out. Sex is for u, ur well-being, your pleasure. Loosen up, play and have fun with your partner, that way you will develop friendship and even marriage will be more interesting. Even when ur skill fails u, ur friend will still be loving you. And moreover ur skill will improve with cordiality.

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  • February 21, 2016 at 2:01 pm
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    This is quite good. Please more of this. ….

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  • February 22, 2016 at 8:15 am
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    Nice piece, some of know the how but our emotional bank accounts are empty and so deploying this skills is the least of thought, more so when one is n ot happy. How can one overcome negative emotions, bitterness to be able to help release and express.

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